Comparison Is The Thief of Joy
Recently I’ve been feeling less than my confident self. I’ve cut 6 inches off my hair and I'm still not loving the results. I’ve gained a few pounds settling into married life that I keep losing then gaining back, and I’m in a clothing rut. Even as I type this, I realize how trivial it all sounds. I’m healthy, my husband is healthy, we're able to pay our bills and see our family and friends whenever we’d like. We are truly blessed.
Despite all this, I still am prone to compare myself to people I see on Instagram, Facebook, or other blogs I read. Even great things like Pinterest have given us unattainable ideas of weddings, parties, showers, meals to cook, and virtual closet ideas. Sure, some are actually doable DIY projects, but a vast majority seem to require a $100,000 minimum wedding budget.
Take today for example. My sweet husband posted a thoughtful photo on Instagram of me and I immediately texted him 3 negative comments. Instead of seeing myself as beautiful the way he see's me, I saw hair that was too short, a face that was too wide, and zoomed in pale skin and freckles. Yeah, not a very good picture. And then it hit me. My unrealistic comparisons of other girls on Instagram, blogs, or Facebook was now literally stealing my joy.
I have a husband who loves me and thinks I’m beautiful just the way I am and I can't seem to believe him. I even remember praying for so long and so hard for God to bring me this man and now I’m married to my best friend, and I think at times, it's easy to forget how good I have it.
Ladies, we need to stop comparing ourselves to the photo-shopped, staged, and plastic world that we live in. There is no joy in that life and I’m the first to admit that I forget that most times. Believe me, I'm speaking to myself first when I say this because I need a reminder every now and then.
Have you ever felt this way or felt down about yourself when you gave so much weight to those beautiful things around you? My prayer for us this week is that we remember our worth is not in our selfies, shoes, weddings, or pies we bake. Our worth is only found in Jesus.
If you're like me and need a daily dose of this truth, my husband has made a phone wallpaper to remind us to keep loving ourselves. Download here or in the Goodies tab.